BDSM Romance

Norman’s Twelve Houseboys

Several times a guy pushing a “Family Commune” has attempted to attract my attention. The profile he has posted on behalf of the Master he no longer reads with is fairly long.

It opens like a cross between a bad self-help book and an invitation to join the local Baptist church:

Are you tired of living alone?
Are you yearning to belong…and to be part of a family?
Are you a caring, nurturing person and wish you had ’something bigger’ to contribute to?

Are you emotionally vulnerable? A target for schemes?

Master is currently searching for a very nice, upscale place in beautiful South Florida to form a small and S-A-N-E family / commune / community.
There will be some nice rooms to rent to a few select, natural servant / slave / sub type men.

He is looking to buy a house and to find some suckers to make the mortgage payments?

Of course, you will keep your regular 9-5 life. And you will have your personal space and time.
However, your dedication to your family commune should come first.

Of course the cult will be the priority.

And though this is a roommate situation, there will still be some structure; like domestic duties, fellowship, eating and outings together, etc.
And, if you wish, assisting Master! (I had the honor and pleasure to do that for some time. How wonderful that was.)

So you only have to serve Master if you want to.

An ideal candidate must be submissive, humble, honest, and dedicated to serving.

Someone that can be pushed around?

You could possibly be there part-time only (ex. weekends) but you would have to pay full rent, as you would still have your own room available to you anytime.

The main thing is pay the rent.

ABOUT YOU:

First, truly wanting to belong and be part of a family situation must be a priority.

You should be desperate, needy.

Be easy to be around and able to fit in with your new family. And you must be spiritually open.

Open to what Pentecostalism? Human sacrifice?

Family combined with commune makes me think of Charles Manson. Probably not that kind of thing going on here. Though there are so many cunning and disreputable people who come up with imaginative ways to bilk people …

Really it sounds like an attempt to get a bunch of submissive guys to make someone’s house payments. I’ve seen other online profiles by men that are obviously hoping to manipulate for profit slave-identified males.

Gratuitous image of Superboy in bondage.

The top’s profile had a reasonable feel at first. The man seemed reasonable and mature. A bit ambiguous but it can be tough to both be specific and keep a range of options open when writing a profile.

When he got to outlining what he wanted in a slave it was the usual 24/7, total slave, no limits razzmatazz. But in summarizing his slave’s life there was an element that stood out starkly:

No future.

Now that seems a terrible thing to expect from someone or to want to subject anyone to.

Not that I was sure what he meant. My guess was that his slave would not grow, progress, develop, evolve: change in any way. Enslavement as a sort of personal stasis.

To be fair the inner life of many people freezes. They become unchanging bores. And spend the rest of their days in front of the TV set.

But I can’t imagine a submissive person with any creativity, spirit - real interest in life signing up for a form of slavery that entails anything like the lack of a future.

Masked Male Slave

The appeal for my submissive side of wearing a mask with slots for eyes is in imagining that the top can’t see who I am and might forget that it is not just some generic slave. The loss of identity contributes to a sense of unimportance.

That is fantasy, though it could be made part of those wonderful psychodramas where top and bottom conspire to suspend belief.

Recently I read a profile in which the master stated that his slave would have no individuality. That typifies perfectly something that is wrong with many D/s profiles and personal ads. The pretence that top and bottom, master/mistress and slave are interchangeable parts in a BDSM machine.

The master just wants “total obedience” and many a slave claims to offer just that. A few favorite fetishes might be mentioned but otherwise there are no specifics. No reason for one to want to meet the other than a specific role is filled.

The top as well as the bottom becomes s creature without individuality.

Since I sometimes use vintage homoerotic Leatherman photographs here I thought I’d point out that one of my other sites sometimes features Gay Male BDSM art and photography. You’ll have to dig through the appropriate category archives.

Leather!

Spoil Me!

Master flogs slave.

This morning I got a message from one Jockgod1. Naturally the first thing I did was look at his profile. If he wants to live up to such an ambitious pseudonym he’ll have to put on more muscle and she some tummy fat before falling into the jock god range. Not that there was anything really wrong with his looks. Just nothing special.

His profile stated that he wants to be spoiled. And his email was essentially an invitation to spoil, ahem, my god.

Now the jock god is about as far from me as you can be in North America. And there was the typical absence of specifics that are a sign of BDSM junk mail. Fetish spam.

Tons of ’submissive’ women are writing to men on CollarMe and Alt without even bothering to check the recipients’ power exchange orientation. They are the crop of online models that have plagued online personal ads since the beginning.

Spoil is often a codeword for: give me tribute. E.g., give me money because I claim I’m dominant and that is how you, the submissive person, show your submission. There’s been a pandemic of incompetent money dominatrices with buttons you can click to send them $25, $50 …. $100, $500!

There are reports that current economic conditions are causing more women to try professional domination as a source of income. (Nothing wrong with that other than many of them will prove incompetent and possibly even do clients harm.)

While male domination for pay is exceedingly uncommon it does exist. No reason to expect them to be more (or less) ethical than the women.

Regardless of your gender and sexual orientation, regardless of your desperation don’t let distant strangers talk you into giving them money for nothing. Some men actually become addicted to this and damage themselves badly financially.

Don’t spoil someone who is already rancid.

A Macedonian man writes:

well, i am insensitive master who likes be pleased anyway and whenever i wished without question of slave. I am into bondage, s/m, degradation, humiliation, training, feet, man dog/slaves, houseboys

As often as I’ve fantasized about ruthless and selfish sadists somehow the word insensitive never popped into my mind. Encountering it in the profile above I can’t supress a smile. I’m not mocking the man. English isn’t his primary language. Insensitivity as an erotic quality will linger with me a time.

A guy from Germany asked:

Do U have a glass eye?

Nope. Though the vision in my right eye is so poor replacing it with an artificial eye would make little difference.

There was no reason for this man to think I had a glass -actually they are normally made of plastic like everything else nowadays - eyeball. I guess this highly specialized fetishist is writing to thousands of personal ads and profiles.

Imagine having such an unobjectionable but uncommon to the point of unfulfillable fetish.

Concise to the Point of Vice

Dear Master For Slaves:

How kind of you it was for you to write me:

What u wanting boy

I want somebody who can write a sentence. I didn’t specify bad grammar and spelling as a kink of mine.

That your profile says you only want to hear from ‘real slaves’ doesn’t tell me anything. Who ever asks for responses from unreal slaves?

That your profile specifies that only are only interested in nearby slaves makes me wonder why you’d write to me since I’m over seventy-five miles away and don’t drive.

That your profile contains no other information tells me that we aren’t destined to meet.

I guess I don’t be wanting you.