There you are cheerfully wanking away to images of yourself scrubbing the bathroom floor clean with a toothbrush or locked in a cast iron chastity device or …
(If you are me the top is engaged in a close study of whether you whimper more entertainingly when hit with a single tail or a quirt.)
So you write a profile bragging about how happy you will be to clean floors or have orgasm only on February 29th (or advance research into the effect of cowhide on human flesh).
OK. We do meet to experience these sorts of things. But they only take up so much of the day. There are lots of hours to be filled with ordinary things.
My recent scanning of profiles shows that it is the top who is most likely to mention pleasure in horseback riding, baseball, jazz, entomology, theoretical physics and baking pies.
Bottoms are forever offering themselves as servants and targets. Tops look for that and a bit more.
Your own profile shouldn’t neglect to share your passions, enthusiasm and hobbies. I’ve lost count of how many kinky relationships began with a shared pleasure that had nothing to do with BDSM.
People generally meet for coffee or a meal. And it is more fun to think of spending time with someone who has more in them than the commonplace yearnings of the average submissive masochist.
Really many D/s couples have started with shared pleasure in an author or musician. Then progressed on to who is the finest maker of floggers.
Originally posted 2014-01-13 15:22:15.