I’ve posted a fair amount of BDSM dating advice elsewhere, no reason to stop now.
Do not work on your profiles and personal ads when you are sexually aroused. Seriously. If you are feeling horny go masturbate before writing. Otherwise you are apt to make promises you can’t keep and get caught up in stressing specific fetishes more than you mean to. To write a good personal advertisement you need to find a happy medium between being aware of your needs and almost clinical detachment from them.
You want to let your passion shine through but with enough impartiality to show you are capable of coping with those passions with some degree of reason.
Neither neediness nor mania is attractive.
Be honest and balanced.
Originally posted 2014-01-11 15:42:55.