Listen and Pay Attention
I have no patience with definitions of what constitutes authentic submission. In a power exchange relationship whether F/m or any Gender/gender proper submission is what proves successful for both partners.
Behavior that approximates an ideal. Ideal conditions are boundaries that are rarely reached.
For me I’d say submission is deferring to the top’s wishes as best as I can. That is consistent with my emotional and physical well-being. People submit because they believe it will satisfy an internal necessity.
The key element that most men lack in offering this deference is probably in actually perceiving and understand the top’s wishes. I have plenty of good will and honest desire. But with the virtues that I can honestly attribute myself I’m forever hurt by how often I could have been more conscious of what was desired and would have made experiences better.
Like all relationships BDSM prospers given communication, attentiveness and empathy.
Originally posted 2013-08-26 00:20:10.