Contempt Play is Serious Play
One of the interesting – and for me initially surprising – differences among tops is their feelings about degrading and humiliation a submissive partner ro playmate.
Almost all male tops seem to enjoy humiliation. Women seem more divided: yes, no, maybe, ewwww! A whole lot of submissive men are also emotional masochists.
Submissive men desire to be dehumanized, degraded who are in relationships with dominant women who don’t enjoy that kind of dominance often seem frustrated. Even becoming angry with her. Or at least sullen and withdrawn.
( – Yes, yes a submissive person is supposed to only do what she desires, etc., etc. Really submissive men and women are individuals and not round objects to be shoved into square holes. – )
How serious is this divide. Is it as wide as the gulf between masochistic men and their vanilla girlfriends and wives? I hope not. Those folks should just be realistic and split up, get a divorce. Why kid yourself into years of pain that isn’t a pleasure?
My own sexuality has evolved and changed in response to so many things I’ve lost count. Would it help a top feel comfortable to humiliate us if we used different words?
Contempt play. With the emphasis on play. Perhaps it can help the dominant partner understand that we know that we aren’t really worthless. That we don’t deserved to be treated like trash.
Contempt play is a form of role play. It can range from being treated as an unimportant object to a person who should be emotionall assaulted merely for being alive.
Why do some of us crave to be treated like garbage? I do have some ideas about the source and origin of my own emotional masochism. But we’d have to be mighty close for me to share the secret with you.
Talk to me about consensual erotic humiliation and degradation.
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:59.