Samples from a early 1980s sequence of photographs starring a handsome young Brazilian man in rope bondage.
Photography by Kristen Bjorn.
Originally posted 2013-09-01 00:48:49.
I’ve alluded to multiple profiles – and my own use of them – before. Recently as if in solution to an invisible puzzle I ran across a serial profile writer.
(If the profile names are in use by someone online it is merely coincidence.)
From an issue of Honcho.
Many months back Master 4 Real Slaves wrote that he guaranteed male slaves three things: nourishing food, shelter to keep out the weather and trips to the doctor. Everything else about the slave’s life would be determined by his whim with no option for disagreement. It was a good fantasy profile actually, though clearly he was really looking for someone.
Later Master 4 Slave Animals appeared. The master was – presumably still is – looking for a slave that acknowledged its inferiority. He had quite an authoritarian setup in mind. Diet, clothing, even sleeping position would be controlled. And:
Waste removal: when, where, and how you will be allowed to defecate or urinate.
The master is retired and has nothing else to do with his time. And again I’ll admit it made for good wanking matter.
Who should come along but Master 4 Born Slaves. He was in a loquacious mood when he wrote this profile, sharing such details as the “nice mushroom head” of his penis.
The profile is quite a mix. This profile is as totalitarian as the preceding two. But he addresses the importance of shared interests and the mechanics of relocation. There’s enough good sense that if he guy understood negotiation and safewords and lived nearby I’d at least be interested in a play date.
It was with the third profile I noticed that all three were from the same small city, and gave the same height, weight and age. I started digging.
And discovered Master 4 Female Slaves. This profile didn’t seem nearly as heated up as the ones addressed to men.
And – behold – Master 4 Blacks. Same guy for sure, this time looking for cyber cock worship by African-American men.
There were at least a couple more but they had no outstanding characteristics.
I also felt I found a slave profile by the guy. Seeking – yes! – absolute control.
This man is easily mocked. But I understand his struggle.
I’ve written many profiles (without having them all up at once) trying to capture the nuances of what I’d like. And I’m open to a variety of things. More so than most people.
But profiles that express complicated sexuality confuse, even repel people. I’m often tempted to dismiss the confused reader but that only limits my already slim chances.
How many profiles do you have?
Originally posted 2013-08-29 00:38:27.
Sadistic black Masters enjoy whipping their new white male slave.
Originally posted 2013-08-26 06:44:17.
Listen and Pay Attention
I have no patience with definitions of what constitutes authentic submission. In a power exchange relationship whether F/m or any Gender/gender proper submission is what proves successful for both partners.
Behavior that approximates an ideal. Ideal conditions are boundaries that are rarely reached.
For me I’d say submission is deferring to the top’s wishes as best as I can. That is consistent with my emotional and physical well-being. People submit because they believe it will satisfy an internal necessity.
The key element that most men lack in offering this deference is probably in actually perceiving and understand the top’s wishes. I have plenty of good will and honest desire. But with the virtues that I can honestly attribute myself I’m forever hurt by how often I could have been more conscious of what was desired and would have made experiences better.
Like all relationships BDSM prospers given communication, attentiveness and empathy.
Originally posted 2013-08-26 00:20:10.