Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:52.
This morning I was reading Gibbon’s account of early Christian monasticism. For once his lofty irony seemed suspended. Lives of self-imposed dreariness, voluntary surrender to petty, pettifogging authority was obviously alien to him. People chose to submit to experiences normally the province of the worst sort of tyranny.
Sounds like some of the D/s profiles I’ve read.
I’ve meant to quote some of the good personal ads I’ve seen written by tops. But I get distracted and forget to copy them. Thinking back a few of the best I’ve read was strong in a quality not often associated with personals: good-humor.
The best profiles show good-natured empathy. I especially admire profiles by dominants that show appreciation of the needs and complications of submissive people. Maybe make a witty aside or two. You are reading the words of someone who seems complete, not just a role.
I don’t think tops need to remind us all that much that they want to be in control. We know that. And those of us who are submissive want them to take that control.
It may be a little harder for a submissive man or woman to show their good humor and wit. Too often writing a personal ad can seem like a burdensome balancing act as you try to present yourself accurately while feeling reluctant to accidentally drive someone away with a sentence not fully understood.
BDSM profiles will be all the better for exhibiting good-natured personality.
See also: Lifestyle
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:51.
My Pleasure in Being Submissive and Masochistic
(I got a note saying that someone on Informed Consent swiped this without credit. Rereading it I find I still enjoy it and thought I’d repost the list here on BDSM Romance.
Individuality – we each express who we are without regard to the bogus conventions, sham rules and kindred nonsense that is often propounded as truths on the web.
Erotic Beauty – Ordinary people they say have fifteen minutes of sex a few times a week. Pneumatic action followed by sleep. In our power exchange “sex” can last for hours and the afterglow for days. (Yeah, this is two words.)
Pet – I’m in love and on my knees. Resting my head on her knee and waiting for her hand to brush the back of my neck is one of the happiest spaces I can go to.
Creature – (Not really explored. But I want ten.) Less than human object. Existing to be used: inarticulate, obedient without thought.
Slave – My will vanishes. There seems to be an invisible wire that leads from her brain to mine. My brain becomes quiet, if I think it is only to make sure I obey.
Helpless – How odd it is to be a man who must struggle to reach these states. Thankfully chains and cuffs can help me find my way there.
Pain – I almost laugh as I type that word. My mind harks back to being bound at the dining room entry as she hit me. Would that next blog of the quirt be too much or not enough? Before she comes back I will go to my rose garden and cut a thick stem.
Suffering – As she hurts me it feels as if she is eating my heart like it is a rare delicacy. There is more than mere physical suffering to be explored.
Surrender – I prefer this word to submission. (And despise “sub” and “subbie.”) Doing what I’m told or really merely asked meshes deeply with my needs.
Worship – this is where the surrender is purest, becomes beatific. When this overcomes me I wish I were telepathic. There are no words, is no action with which I can really let her feel what is flowing through my heart.
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:50.
This is why St. Nick keeps a list of all those who are naughty.
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:47.
Actually for me a sadist’s profile can be one of the most sexy documents imaginable.
I don’t mean it needs to be all hot and slobbery. It needn’t go on at extended length about the particulars that thrill her or him.
A concise summation of the enjoyment that an intelligent and interesting person takes in making someone they find worth knowing hurt and suffer is plenty. Not that a few extra bits that captures the cheerful cruelty his willing suspension of autonomy isn’t welcome.
A good profile by a top can keep me from getting a good night’s sleep.
A very fair trade.
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:48.
I’ve been getting fan mail today. Here’s what arrived in the space of about forty minutes:
- I am a very submissive male in Raleigh that loves to crossdress
- I love your profile Sir
- i am a very submissive male crossdresser
- your profile is so exciting to me Sir
- I need to be controlled and mde to serve
- gawd i would love serving you Sir
Pretty frantic isn’t he. Wouldn’t be surprised if I were the first person he’s ever written. I’ve told him to calm down and that recent changes in my life leaves me presently too distracted to deal with anyone.
(I’ll write about my top profile later, though it may be on Down On My Knees.)
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:46.
Another late 1970s butch guy tired up out among the trees.
Don’t you wish these men would show more emotion?
Originally posted 2016-01-24 20:56:45.