Very long and ver self-involved. No kink. I don’t particularly suggest that you read it. I put it here because for me it is natural companion to In Praise of Feminine Gay Males.

One of my favorite people in all of space and time.

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(No kink here. Sums up my queer sexuality but it too long and obsessive for any but the like minded to read. Writte nover five years ago.)

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A gay male top in his fifties complete profile:

19 and slim is nice

Another by one in his forties:

looking for 18 years you have no rights .total slut pain slave

I know that yearning. There was an attractive young waif in my store the other day. Ah to be … again.

I write as someone whose last two lovers were over twenty years his junior. Sure that was nice, no reason to lie about it. Their comparative youth made me nervous at first. Turning into a pathetic old chickenhawk isn’t on my list of aspirations.

These older gay masters are fantastically delusional. If you’ve reached that age without being able to distinguish which of your wants are plausible you have doomed yourself to a life of frustration.

Not being able to enjoy someone near your own age leaves you an erotic cripple. You doom yourself to a solitary old age.

Honestly I can’t claim to feel compassion for them. Profiles like that evoke only contempt.

Dear Mr. Profile Person,

Your profile (or personal ad) says you are a heterosexual man. But you write to me. Since you never say anything like “I’m a straight guy who wants to humiliate a homo,” I have to guess that you are really bisexual but don’t want to state that visibly even on a website devoted to helping us kinky perverts get together.

I do know the misconceptions that monosexuals both heterosexual and gay often have about us. They are sure we can’t be faithful and suspect we’re likely to be disease ridden.

But as someone who listened to his father disown him - tell him he didn’t care if he starved in the street - rather than lie to a question about his sexuality I find it awful hard at times to feel really sympathetic.

So butch up: especially if you call yourself a top. I’m not looking to be dominated by a scaredy cat.

So butch up!

Yours faithfully,
Richard