Very long and ver self-involved. No kink. I don’t particularly suggest that you read it. I put it here because for me it is natural companion to In Praise of Feminine Gay Males.

One of my favorite people in all of space and time.

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(No kink here. Sums up my queer sexuality but it too long and obsessive for any but the like minded to read. Writte nover five years ago.)

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A gay male top in his fifties complete profile:

19 and slim is nice

Another by one in his forties:

looking for 18 years you have no rights .total slut pain slave

I know that yearning. There was an attractive young waif in my store the other day. Ah to be … again.

I write as someone whose last two lovers were over twenty years his junior. Sure that was nice, no reason to lie about it. Their comparative youth made me nervous at first. Turning into a pathetic old chickenhawk isn’t on my list of aspirations.

These older gay masters are fantastically delusional. If you’ve reached that age without being able to distinguish which of your wants are plausible you have doomed yourself to a life of frustration.

Not being able to enjoy someone near your own age leaves you an erotic cripple. You doom yourself to a solitary old age.

Honestly I can’t claim to feel compassion for them. Profiles like that evoke only contempt.

Dear Mr. Profile Person,

Your profile (or personal ad) says you are a heterosexual man. But you write to me. Since you never say anything like “I’m a straight guy who wants to humiliate a homo,” I have to guess that you are really bisexual but don’t want to state that visibly even on a website devoted to helping us kinky perverts get together.

I do know the misconceptions that monosexuals both heterosexual and gay often have about us. They are sure we can’t be faithful and suspect we’re likely to be disease ridden.

But as someone who listened to his father disown him - tell him he didn’t care if he starved in the street - rather than lie to a question about his sexuality I find it awful hard at times to feel really sympathetic.

So butch up: especially if you call yourself a top. I’m not looking to be dominated by a scaredy cat.

So butch up!

Yours faithfully,
Richard

Profile by a master in central North Carolina:

Looking for worthless slaves to be
used as fuckmeat and cum receptacles. Prefer naturally submissive, shy, quiet, unassuming, low self-esteem.

Not looking for
relationship, scenes, etc., Just
something to fuck and discard until
the next time, without any regard as a person, like a mangy bitch dog.

If you are in this category and know
this is what you deserve, let me know.

Age and physicality are not an issue. Just be totally submissive

Some women would say this is just a typical male.

Let’s be honest there are plenty of people who will find this exciting to read. To be brutally frank this sort of arrangement is probably the best some bottoms can hope for (or - perhaps - capable of).

But.

BDSM without the option of a safeword is a serious risk.

There’s no promise of safe sex. Is the risk of becoming HIV+ really worth it? Are you that desperate?

Someone who is looking for men and women with low self-esteem could very well be a predator, a sociopath.

Part of the CollarMe profile from a fellow who identifies himself as a gay male slave:

Okay, first things first regarding me doing your housework. I have no problem with this, but let’s face it, everyone wants me to do their housework. Every Dominant person in the country wants a slave to do their housework for them. So what’s so special about you, right? Let’s talk about the rest of the deal.

Hooray for him! (His ad overall is forthright and appealing.)

There’s no doubt that some tops think a D/s title or power exchange roles is far more of an entitlement than it is.

This isn’t a criticism of this kind of service submission. Just don’t be so desperate that you let people take advantage of you or use you in he wrong way. While it should be obvious it doesn’t hurt to state that bottoms, submissive persons and slaves are people.