I found my Rules for Voluntary Slaves quoted on a blog (without the courtesy of attribution).
Any such list can only be what physicists call a “thought experiment.” Such criteria can be framed only in context of the relationship. No one should expect to learn how to regulate their or another’s life from a website.
On the blog a visitor left a comment outlining additional rules. So many that I think most dominants would find them distracting. A simple walk in the park doesn’t necessarily have to be turned into a power exchange. Oh sure, maybe sometimes as a form of play.
Sweeping abstractions are foolish. Venturing any about Dommes is handicapped by the difficulty of knowing how many of the people writing as dominant women are really lonely guys. And some women talk more harshly than they feel because that makes the guys (sometimes potential clients) happy.
Often it seems that Dommes remark that it is their partner who wants to be denied orgasms, hurt and humiliated more than they really wish. Not to suggest there aren’t happily sadistic women around. Just that the submissive and masochistic male is more likely to be the one that goes overboard. (As I’ve said before: if Alexandra ever harms me it will be in doing something for which I asked.)
This came to my mind as I read the list of additional rules, regulations and conventions the guy thought should be imposed on an F/m relationship.
Taken to its full silliness you’d wind up thanking her for each and every breath you take. Having intelligence and imagination she might like to just chat. To be made to laugh.
NB: Not to say that some couples don’t want a more than common formality in their relationship. (Particularly those used to Old Guard M/s protocols.)
NB: And of course sometimes a largish set of prescriptions and proscriptions may be established as a form of play.
So – guys – when envisioning these possibly over elaborate schemes ask yourself whether they would gratify her or you.
Originally posted 2013-12-23 20:10:54.