I used to have a site called Queer Pop Culture.

I have a site called Queer Pop Culture. As of today.

Quite some time back I moved the entries to a different site. Why I thought having a site using arcane PoMo jargon like proairetic escapes me.

I put QPC on a website parking service and forgot about it for a time.

The original QPC was a mix of notes about what I was reading, watching and listening to and amusing queer stuff found on the web. It grew out of an old blog called Diversions that was part of my original site, Edifying Spectacle (maybe I’ll eventually revive that one).

This morning I told Movable Type to give me a new blog and …

The new QPC will be mostly found stuff I think. It is a pity I’ve never really been the archiving type. I’ve discovered and discarded a huge amount of material over the years. I’d have plenty to populate a few sites had I saved all of that miscellaneous matter.

People ask how I find the time to maintain all my sites. Well, sisters and brothers, I don’t. Take my pop culture sites (please - literally - if you have lots of money to waste and are foolish: buy them).

Queer Pop Culture led to Gay Pop Culture. A few months ago I was startled to discover that I’d added nothing to the latter in a couple of years. So I’m making a point of doing so. GPC is a strong domain name. Someone better than I could make something of it.

An then there is - blush - Sexy Pop Culture. Last year I decided to let it die. But the traffic kept up. Nothing nearly like it was when I inadvertently became one of the top results for Kevin Federline (!). Still, I’m updating it again.

Ah, it was last year that I discovered that Fetish Pop Culture was available. (I only register domains that I think make good site names.) The demon voice whispered in my ear, “Go to Godaddy!” And I did.

By merely keeping the sites alive and periodically adding fresh material there is a chance I could sell the pop culture sites one day. Merely letting a site age invests it with a little value. Or I may have a flash of inspiration and do something cunning and worthwhile with the damned things.

Not having as much time for the fetish blogosphere as I once did I don’t run across as many bogus Femdom blogs as I once did.

Tweo that I’ve recently read have been almost archetypal instances of phony female domination: submissive men writing as dominant woman. And focus the trinity of their species: cuckoldry, sissyfication and extreme orgasm denial.

Because the author as created a virtual private universe the fake blogs have an internal consistency that can almost fool you.

One detail often gives the game away: panties.

Women who enjoy lingerie write of their attire with aestheticism and lyricism. The men I’m thinking of write mechanically.

For them panties aren’t something lovely. They are the master key to their obsession.

Not that I’m going to upbraid them for writing porn as fact. They are victims of their compulsion.

I know that many find black backgrounds enchanting. I have a couple with dark background color. But that is only because I’m lazy. Eventually I’ll switch them to white backgrounds.

My ViewSonic monitor’s brightness diminished within a year of my buying it. But long before I’d often found myself frustrated and annoyed by low contrast websites. Especially those with small text and inappropriate fonts.

There are blogs can barely read and never linked to because of the eyestrain.

If your goal is to look ‘cool’ do what pleases you. If you want to be read understand that the big commercial sites have spent literally millions of dollars making sure that black on white is what most readers want.

(From February 2007.)

Stop sex! Stop it now!

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People are famously uncomfortable with extreme romantic and sexual neediness: it is the polar opposite of an aphrodisiac.

Is your hunger for a dominant something that radiates from you? Is your desire to find one something you can’t help but talk about in fetish venues? On your blog and in your emails and IMs?

That - more than anything else - may be sabotaging your search.

If you are a single submissive person your desires are a given: they don’t need to be spoken of. Try to relax and keep your inner-nagging out of sight.

I’ve posted a fair amount of BDSM dating advice elsewhere, no reason to stop now.

Do not work on your profiles and personal ads when you are sexually aroused. Seriously. If you are feeling horny go masturbate before writing. Otherwise you are apt to make promises you can’t keep and get caught up in stressing specific fetishes more than you mean to. To write a good personal advertisement you need to find a happy medium between being aware of your needs and almost clinical detachment from them.

You want to let your passion shine through but with enough impartiality to show you are capable of coping with those passions with some degree of reason.

Neither neediness nor mania is attractive.

Be honest and balanced.