An old essay distinguishing between submissiveness and slavishness and outlining the varying degrees of each that those of us on the surrendering half of the power exchange have within ourselves. Ranging from The Outright Non-submissive Masochist or Kinky Sensualist to the Consensual Total Slave with No Limits. A nice attempt to capture the variety of individual needs and illustrate that there is no one right way.
Within the S/M subculture, different people use the words “submissive” and “slave” to mean many different things. When submissive persons say “I want to be your slave”, sometimes they mean only that they want to be tied up and whipped. Many professional dominants routinely refer to their (usually not very genuinely submissive) clients as “slaves”. At the other extreme, there are people who want to be full-time personal servants, and who truly want to exist solely for their “owner’s” use, pleasure, and convenience. And there are many shades in between these two extremes.
Which are you? (Or which do you like best?)