I’m hoping to meet someone who would enjoy hurting me on a regular or semi-regular basis.
Consensually inflicted pain and suffering makes me happy (if only the day after).
I’m open to S&M with or without role-playing and psychodrama. Dominance, a suggestion of violence or meanness can boost my masochism. I’m open to fantasy play scenarios. But not monomaniacs interested in, say, only nipple torture.
But just mutually exploring the effect of certain practices can be lots of fun.
Sadomasochistic play can be performed in many ways: high drama, playfully. S&M can even be hilarious at times. (Nothing like having someone weight your testicles by filling a bucket with potatoes.)
My experience has been limited to one LTR (now ended). There’s lots we never tried or explored in depth.
I’d like to try many things. But I don’t want a top to feel that I’m expecting to be serviced. Without the sadist’s delight I lose my masochistic superpower to process pain as pleasure. (Honestly – I think I erotized being spanked when I was eight – I like being hit so much I could imagine asking for a whipping as a favor.)
An experienced sadist has technique and knowledge of safety. A novice has lots of curiosity and an eagerness to try things. Either is welcome.
I’m only looking for someone who wants to do this on a steady basis. S&M is enriched by a growing mutual awareness.
I don’t drive. I also use a machine to provide extra oxygen. That isn’t as limiting as you might think. But I haven’t done any S&M with it. I can’t see why it would interfere with a caning or cbt.
Even worse: I’m fat. (Oops there you went!) And the trauma that caused this is no longer an even half-assed excuse. (Obviously I need a TPE with heavy dietary restrictions.)
Kinks and fetishes include: Abrasion, Bondage, Boot worship, CBT, Corporal punishment, Depersonalization, Face slapping, Genitorment, Hair pulling, Testicle bondage.
Hard Limits: C/capitalization protocol. Married men. Blood, breath play, cigars, diapers, feminization, fisting, scat, tickling. Public scenes or involving third parties. Soft Limits: anal insertables, enemas, plastic wrap and wax. I know safewords disappoint but being prepared for unforeseen emergencies seems wise. I don’t think of my submissive orientation as making me part of a lifestyle and have no interest in public venues.
Good humor and intelligence are joys.
Cruelty is cool. Typing in ALL CAPS isn’t. (And it is self-defeating. Studies show text in which all the words are capitalized is less likely to be read.)
I don’t role-play online. Ever. I resist chatting because of my repetitive stressed out fingers. Email is a better initial stage of communication.
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