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Of Profiles & Porn

Love is a Four Letter Word Lobby Card

It is a common topic. I’ve certainly added my two cents. Probably often enough for it to add up to a quarter.

I’m talking about finding fault with bottoms’ responses to profiles.

Tops can be just as annoying.

A couple of responses to my own profiles brought this to mind. The first was so nutty that I just dismissed it. The second was more plausible. Neither I’ve decided were aimed at communication.

Occasionally I get comments from distant tops writing to say they like my profile and wishing me luck. The couple of responses I’m thinking of expressed interest even thought they read as if the writer hadn’t actually read my profile. The latter I’ve decided were aimed at eliciting passionate replies in which I steamily wrote of all the awful things I wanted done to me. To write porn for them to wank to.

This reminded me of a local top I’d communicated with some years back. I liked him well enough to give him my home phone number. He said I had a very sexy voice. This I’ll unblushingly confess didn’t cause me a second thought because I often heard that from women when I did survey research. It was near the end of what proved to be our final chat that I realized what was innocent chat for me was phone sex for him: that he was masturbating as we talked.

I’d be delighted to have someone to write perverse scenarios for but I don’t want to be tricked into it.

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7 Responses for "Of Profiles & Porn"

  1. Ms. Madison April 14th, 2008 at 7:17 pm

    Female tops get lots and lots of backhanded requests for erotica. The best one I ever got was from a 50 year old “female” who claimed her husband was cheating on her, and wanted to know how she should punish him.

    I’m pretty gullible, but even I knew that “she” was a man looking for wank material.

  2. Ms. Madison April 14th, 2008 at 7:17 pm

    Oh, yeah, I also should say I’m sorry about those creepy guys you’ve had to deal with :(

  3. Dev April 14th, 2008 at 9:39 pm

    It’s funny. I’ve had tons of sex online with people (mostly in the past, but some within the past couple of years), and I’ve had phone sex, but I really dislike being used as wank material when it’s hidden and not mutual.

    Let me rephrase. If someone reads my blogs or emails or letters and jacks off to or about them, that’s fine with me. But if you’re interacting with me in real time, and jacking off, I’d like to know about it so I can decide whether it’s a fun mutual activity or not.

    Of course, if it doesn’t affect me at all, then it’s none of my business. But invariably people start trying to elicit things hot enough to get them off. And that’s just annoying.

  4. Richard April 15th, 2008 at 7:44 am

    Ms. Madison, funny how many guys who sign themselves something like “sissy” have email addresses like mistress-aphrodite@bogus.net. The submissive men who pretend to be women used to really annoy me. Now I just take it as a given. They are easy to spot once you know they are there.

  5. Richard April 15th, 2008 at 7:46 am

    Dev, I remember a couple of women who stopped blogging because of the guys who kept pushing them to be meaning to their husbands/boyfriends. They claimed it was what he “needed” but were really trying to project their fantasies on to the lives of others and have something to wank to.

  6. Dev April 15th, 2008 at 2:13 pm

    Wow. Now that’s just weird. I haven’t gotten any of that, that I can recall.

  7. Richard April 15th, 2008 at 2:26 pm

    I haven’t noticed them myself but I don’t read as many F/m blogs as I once did. A year or more ago they seemed like a plague.


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